What’s the Difference, and Can They Work Together?
When you’re navigating the ups and downs of parenting, you might start looking for a bit of extra support. Two options that often come up are parenting coaching and therapy. While they can sound similar at first, they actually serve different purposes – and they can work really well together.
Here’s a breakdown to help you figure out what might suit you best – or how combining both could make a real difference for you and your family.
Therapy: Understanding the Past and Making Sense of the Present
Therapy is usually about looking inward and healing. If you’re carrying emotional pain, unresolved trauma, or struggling with your mental health, therapy gives you the space to explore that safely.
You might start to notice how your past experiences – maybe how you were parented yourself – are showing up in how you’re parenting now. Therapy can help untangle these patterns and support you in managing emotions like anger or anxiety that affect your relationships.
It’s a really supportive space for anyone going through something heavy, or for those just wanting to understand themselves better in order to be the kind of parent they want to be.
Coaching: Taking Action and Looking Ahead
Parenting coaching, on the other hand, is all about practical strategies and moving forward. It’s future-focused and goal-oriented but deeply rooted in being self aware and reflective. If you’re feeling stuck in certain situations with your child – maybe bedtime is a battle, or communication is breaking down – coaching helps you figure out what’s going on and how to tackle it.
Together, we’d explore what’s working, what’s not, and how to tweak your approach in a way that fits both your child’s needs and your own values. It’s collaborative, non-judgemental, and grounded in the day-to-day realities of parenting.
How the Two Can Work Together
Here’s how therapy and coaching can complement each other beautifully:
- Putting insight into action: Therapy can help you understand why certain things upset you so much. Coaching then helps you decide what to do with that understanding and how to respond differently next time.
- Skill-building: Coaching gives you practical tools, like setting boundaries, staying calm during meltdowns, and improving communication, to make family life easier. If problems continue, especially in your relationship as parents, therapy might help explore deeper issues.
- Feeling more confident: Coaching helps you feel more in control and able as a parent, moving from just coping to growing. But if you keep feeling low, tired, or unmotivated, therapy can help with burnoutA stress condition where we feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained and unable to keep up with the demands of our daily life. or anxiety.
- Positive, strengths-based support: Coaching is a friendly conversation focused on what you’re already doing well and making progress, not being perfect. Therapy offers a clinical space if you need deeper emotional support or help with mental health challenges.
You can see how coaching, and therapy might complement each other in the example below:
David’s Story
David began coaching feeling overwhelmed by his children’s meltdowns and frequent conflicts with his partner over parenting. Coaching helped him develop practical skills like setting boundaries and improving communication, which eased daily stress.
As David worked on self-awareness and examined his belief systems around parenting, he realized deeper emotional patterns—like anger and anxiety—were affecting his relationships. Coaching helped him see that therapy would be a helpful next step to explore and heal these issues.
David started therapy to work on emotional regulation and unpack how his upbringing influenced his responses. Together, coaching and therapy supported him in becoming a calmer, more confident parent and partner.
Which One is Right for You – Or Could You Benefit from Both?
Which one is right for you depends on where you are right now.
- If you’re dealing with mental health challenges or past trauma, therapy might be the best place to start.
- If you’re more focused on day-to-day parenting struggles, relationship dynamics, or wanting to grow as a parent, coaching could be just what you need.
And if you’re thinking, “Actually, I could do with a bit of both,” that’s totally valid too. Many parents find that therapy gives them the deeper self-understanding they need, and coaching helps them apply that insight in practical ways. Whether you work with both professionals at the same time or one after the other, it can be a really holistic approach.
At the end of the day, both therapy and coaching are there to support you – just in different ways. It’s about finding the kind of help that speaks to your needs, your goals, and your story as a parent.
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